Theater of the Soul

I’m just gonna toss this out there into the ether because apparently there are quite a few people who are dealing with the same things I am lately.

1. One mistake IS a mistake. The SAME mistake made over and over again is a habit. Break it.
2. Take the time to truly understand what the consequences to your actions were and THEN apologize. Make sure you understand the part you played in the ‘misunderstanding’.
3. “I’m sorry if I hurt you” is NOT an apology. You might as well be saying, “Stop being so over sensitive”. An apology should include the SPECIFIC action that caused the problem, such as “I’m sorry that I called yo’ momma fat” or “I’m sorry that I blogged about your small penis”.
4. Don’t qualify your apologies. When you’ve hurt someone’s feelings, they don’t really give a shit what horrible things happened in your past to make you the way you are or how drunk you were at the time or how you haven’t been laid in a month. All they REALLY want is for you to show that you understand that what you did/said was wrong and that you will endeavor to never make the same mistake twice.
5. If you’re not sincere, don’t bother. No one likes having sunshine blown up their ass when they’ve been hurt or wronged.
6. This is worth repeating: the same mistake made over and over is a habit. Break it.

I learned a looooong time ago that empty apologies are often worse than the original offense. I’ve had the week from hell so far and I’ve made several new and creative mistakes, but it didn’t kill me to look anyone in the eye or send an email or pick up the phone and utter those two little words: “I’m sorry”.

If this ‘insensitive bitch’ can do it, so can everyone else.